When I talked with an executive member of my club, I asked her to make a practice plan partly. I expected that she agreed with me like "I want to involve in the making practice plan! And you're busy, so I help you!" However she said, "It's your work, isn't it?" and she continued, " If you don't decide it, you have no work!"
I was shocked. (What? I'm busy for other works of captain even if she doesn't know!!)
It was shocking for me but, I should have thought about it from other perspective.
The first point is that I didn't tell her my reason why I asked her to decide the practice plan. I want others to Good reason has a power to move people.
The second is that I didn't care that she as well as me, is very busy, because she is in charge of other important position. In addition I have not told what is my job clearly.
I focused on only myself, and I was convinced she understood what I want to say.
I have to try to know others and be careful of others. (probably not only as a leader but also as a good person)
My ideal relationship is every member has leadership and everyone should be involved in the process of decision-making. However if I want them to do so, I have to make effort involving them, I think.
I know easier said than done...!
Great post! Easier said than done, indeed. Sometimes what is important is the way we "frame" a request. As you have suggested, she needed to know more about what you are already doing and you needed to show how her help was needed and valuable to the group as a whole. Framing is what you say before asking someone to help you, and it can make all the difference.
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